Digital Dating Dangers: How to Protect Your Teen from Online Romance Scams

With romance scams hitting record highs, understanding how predators target young people has never been more crucial. We break down the warning signs of catfishing. Before we do, the definition of Catfishing is: the process of luring someone into a relationship by means of a fictional online persona. (source: Oxford Languages).

Why Teens Are Vulnerable

Recent research reveals why teenagers are particularly susceptible to online deception. Dr. Evita March from Federation University found that during adolescence, the brain's reward system – which responds to social connection – is especially active. Meanwhile, the areas responsible for judgment are still developing.

"Teenagers are neurologically primed to seek connection," explains March. "Combined with their developing decision-making skills, this makes them perfect targets for online predators."

Warning Signs Your Teen Might Be Getting Catfished

  • Secretive behavior around their phone or computer

  • Emotional attachment to someone they've never met in person

  • Reluctance to video chat with their online friend

  • Stories about their online friend's broken camera or technical issues

  • Mentions of sending money or gifts

  • Constant excuses from their online friend as to why they cannot meet in person nor on video camera

  • Mentions of advancing the relationship with their online friend

How to Talk to Your Teen

Start conversations early about online safety. Instead of lectures, share stories about real cases. Discuss how even smart, careful people can be deceived because scammers exploit natural human desires for connection.

Key points to emphasize:

  • Never send money to online friends

  • Insist on video calls before deep emotional investment

  • Be wary of profiles that seem too perfect

  • Trust their instincts if something feels wrong

  • Understand anyone can be anyone online

  • Value in-person connections more

Creating a Safety Net

Establish an open-door policy where teens can share concerns without fear of judgment. Research shows teens are more likely to seek help when they don't fear punishment or ridicule.

"The goal isn't to scare teenagers away from online interaction," says March. "It's to help them navigate it safely."

Taking Action

If you suspect your teen is being catfished:

  • Document all communications

  • Report suspicious profiles to the platform

  • Contact local authorities if money has been sent

  • Seek counseling support if needed

Remember: Shame and blame don't help. Focus on supporting your teen through the experience while reinforcing safer online habits for the future.

Article References:

  • Federation University Study on Catfishing Behaviors (2023)

  • Federal Trade Commission Teen Online Safety Report (2022)

  • Journal of Adolescent Psychology Digital Romance Study (2021)